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1.24.2013

25 THINGS BEFORE 25. two years past and i'm still figuring some of this out...


...i came across this the other day and found myself laughing out loud at just how very spot-on this list is. at 27 i've long since figured some of this stuff out...others i'm still working on. 




and so i wonder...what rings true for you? what doesn't? what would you add..

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27 comments:

Magatha-May said...

I think I have just fallen in love with you a little bit more

Clio said...

This is the best.

Alexa said...

turning 25 in 12 days and this is perfect.

Shawnee said...

keeping this for the record; on both fun and serious notes.

Blue Dog Belle said...

I absolutely love this. Only a few months to my 25th birthday... I have some work to do.

Hannah Nicole said...

fallen in love with this.

sarah ashley said...

Thank you for sharing this. #6 took a weight off my shoulders in a very much needed way.

I'm inspired by this post and felt like I needed to share it in my own blog as well. I hope you don't mind. I gave you and your source full credit if you'd like to see:

http://stumblingsandstitchings.blogspot.com/2013/01/25-thinngs-to-do-before-you-turn-25.html

Thanks again. I love your blog!

katilda said...

So so gorgeous. I recently did some of them. I told a guy I liked him. After 7 years, I just told him! It was incredibly liberating. I also like the idea of kissing someone I think is out of my league. I'm on it...

Ashley said...

Yes to #1, 6, 8, 11, 13, 15, 16, 17. YES. Working on 18 & 21. I'm 26. I'll get there.

Robby Spratt said...

These are really good. I probably need to focus on #1.

Nicola said...

Working on #1, 3, 6, 7, 21 and 25 right now.

I love love love the idea of kissing someone out of your league. That might be my new mission

Jane G said...

I love this list...made my day.
http://janestylesny.blogspot.com/

Julie said...

Minimize your passivity: 100 million percent yes. I'm two years past 25 too, and I think it's going to be my mission from now until I'm 50 years past. Everything good in the world comes out of one first step, so I'm trying to pry my foot off the floor.

Jessica said...

Some of these really hit close to home.. especially the one about finding a hobby.

Jessica
www.littlemapleleaf.blogspot.com (<--my hobby)

Joanna said...

Definitely #13 for me. There is something insanely empowering in not being afraid to do something FOR yourself and BY yourself. I've found this to be especially true after the end of a really long relationship. I had forgotten what it was like to enjoy things by myself. Thanks for the reminder!

Joanna

hayley said...

amen! gosh #19 made me laugh out loud!

Kmarie Jones said...

I loved getting out into the sun and forgetting about the net for awhile...since life and school revolve around it...The Bachelors one made me nervous as I am currently paying to finish mine...Hmmmmmm....not sure if I want to face that one yet.. I live #21 and I married number 22...I did not like number 2 simply because I do not believe in leagues. I know it is entirely naive and idealistic but I do not feel anyone should consider others "better" or "out of league" just because their looks may be a different standard or their job may pay better. To me - people are people and ALL deserve love and ALL struggle with beautiful flaws and selfishness...SO that one felt a tad unbalanced but I liked the idea of kissing for the heck of it:)
25 is the truest of the true. I let go of many things and people this year (including my blog) and while some of it was very tough- I am on the other side and experiencing so much more than I ever dreamed. It's nice not to want to vomit around anyone...anymore:)
Thanks for this! What was your favourite or encouraged you the most?

judy said...

I've seen this before, and for some reason it just rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe it's the whole "work a service job to slum it while you're in your twenties," when the truth is many of us have to work service jobs that suck to pay the bills (and thus can't really afford to leave the country to have sex in hostels and unsuccessfully "find ourselves). Or maybe the whole thing just seems incredibly self-indulgent (like the idea of needing "me" time). It's not that I have everything on this list figured out, but these are not the items that should represent the changes I (we) need to make.

Anyhoo, this comment definitely isn't a snark on you or your blog, just wanted to share my thoughts since I keep seeing this post around the Internets (I seriously feel like the only twenty-something girl who doesn't love it).

judy said...

^^^ Christ, I'm such a wet blanket!

meg fee said...

Judy, I totally get what you're saying and respect it. If something rubs you the wrong way, then it rubs you the wrong way and you're entitled to feel that. I will however, say this: I've spent the entirety of my twenties indulging in me time. The whole of it. Every last minute of it. I have been and done and said things that others would consider selfish and unfair and certainly put my family through some hell. But I wouldn't change a minute of it. I do not think there is a more important thing than me time. The me time is a place in which we learn of self-love. And self-love is what all other love emanates from. And someone might say, not actually that's love of God, but I do believe self-love is learning to love the divinity that is within one's self or learning to love one's self in that way that God loves us...so. What I'm say is. Thank God for all my me time. My selfish time. Because now I can go out and do and say things that with a new understanding of selfless. Now I can love my family and my friends in ways that I never could before.

And I've known many a good friend who works in the service industry and has managed to carve out moments of both losing and finding themselves in foreign countries.

However, it is very clear that the person who wrote is a very particular "type" of person. I certainly identify with that type. And I've lived a very lucky life with many blessings tossed my way. So I get where others would look at this and say oh, this self-entitled, spoiled, and on and on. And there might be some truth to that. But we're all fighting the good fight. We're all reaching in the direction of something better...or at least that's the hope. But we fight and we reach in different ways.

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Moonboots said...

I found your blog this year. I love it for so many reasons. I am 43 and still working on some of this list. Not all as you can imagine but enough of it. In my 20s I thought about some of this stuff but never worked it out. In my 40s I think about this stuff and I am working it out. My 20s were fun though, lots of nights out where I ended up seeing the sunrise.

RetreatingAndAdvancing said...

that's wonderful.. two years to go for me! :)

heather m said...

I've been seeing these types of lists around the blogging world lately and I love that women all over the map are setting such awesome and empowering goals for themselves. I love your list! There are so many things that I want to add to my own (if I ever get around to making one).

I am especially grateful for #25. I know I can sure relate to that, and I imagine there are lots of other women out there who can too. Thank you, for actually writing it down. :)

x

meg fee said...

@heather m: this is not my list, but i love it nonetheless!

Bethany said...

A lot of this list I love/am working on/can pat myself on the back for having done.

The one thing that kinda makes me cringe is #22, for the simple fact that the logic negates itself. If the person willing to say "I love you" first were to follow this rule, then you would be undatable, they would be undatable, everyone would be alone. And when you think about it, it could, potentially, nullify #10.

One thing that I've learned in my twenties that nobody wants to learn but needs to is this : we want to learn to love ourselves, to be good to ourselves, and find someone that loves us, and that is a good goal. *But* we also have to be willing to be those people who will love others, and be brave enough to say "I love you" first.
I told my husband I loved him first, and I don't point this out to pat myself on the back or imply that I have it all figured out; it's a confession. I had to be willing to lay my heart on the line in a sort of self-sacrificing, pride-be-damned kind of way. He deserved to have someone say "I love you" first as much as I did.

Daphne said...

Gosh I absolutely loved this post! Might have to save this one up on my computer as a reminder. Especially the last one, don't stick around a job or people that make you unhappy or feel less about yourself. Be brave and do go for that person that says I love you first! :D

Thanks so much for posting and sharing this!

Love, Daphne