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3.20.2012

about those love letters...

i've been thinking a lot about love of late--of what a love story is,  what it means to love, to be loved, to love one's self.  and then this arrived in my email (from a lovely reader named meg) and i sent an email back immediately asking if i might share. so a huge thank you to meg for her lovely words and gift it was just to send them to me. 


Meg,


The love letters to your future husband are going to be helpful, later in your life when you might forget these times, or when everything is so long past it becomes a memory of a person you used to be and a place you used to live.
 
For many years I pined and longed for my one-true-love and I looked for him everywhere.  Every city, every coffee shop, every low-lit bar.  Looking back, I kept looking even when I was with a boy I thought was the one-true-love.  This should have been a red flag, but I ignored it, despite it's bright color.
 
One day, I stopped looking.  I forgot about it and thought of other things.  I planned to leave, move to New York and live an exciting life with the friends who were waiting in Manhattan and Brooklyn for me to finally leave the Midwest behind.
 
I found him:  I found my one-true-love.  I didn't quite know it on the first or even second introduction because we were surrounded with people, friends, and acquaintances in loud places.  Finally, we went out together, alone.  Our big, loud, funny personalities were quiet and careful with one another.  
 
We tried a few places for dinner and drinks, but they were loud and obnoxious and we were too delicate.  We found a dive bar, we ordered gin and tonics, we talked and laughed.  We walked back to his Jeep and he suddenly pulled me into a doorway where we kissed in the twilight on a May evening, almost five years ago.  We both just KNEW we had found each other, finally.  Finally.  Finally!
 
I will tell you that you cannot quite imagine how or when or who it will be.  Remember, you may not know immediately, but when you know, you know.  It will alter the course of your life forever and you will never look back, or, if you do, you will be grateful for the letters you wrote now.  
 
And yes, you will talk to him about the jeans, or lack thereof.  If you don't mention it, he might just guess because he will truly know you in a way you were never known or loved before.  And he will help you, even if you cannot help yourself.  he will try to understand, he will be there, he will love you unconditionally.  
 
I just wanted to let you know that it is possible to find him.  And even after becoming a wife and a mother, owning a home and a minivan and a swingset, I look across the room at him and I think:  Finally!  
 
Best wishes,
(Meg)

43 comments:

Ramona said...

WOW! This seriously just totally made my day and it just what I needed to hear right now and in this season of my life... thank you for sharing this letter!

christine said...

Loveliest letter ever...

I love your love letters and wish sometimes that I had the courage to dream the way you do.

Happy spring!

sharlyn emily said...

how sweet and lovely is this!? made my day (and gave me reassured hope in my none-search approach)

sharlyn emily said...

*non-search (oops!)

Morgan said...

this is so sweet

Lottie said...

This brought a lump to my throat--what a lovely email to send.

Alexa said...

i'm with Ramona: this is just what i need right now. sometimes it would be so easy to lose heart, but...i've got faith it will come.

Robby Spratt said...

This really is excellent! Thanks for posting it for us. :)

debbiecutieface.com said...

this is beautiful. What a love story.

KristyWes said...

Oh! SO sweet and lovely. Thanks (Meg) for writing and thanks (other Meg) for sharing :)

Brei said...

So great! Just what I needed at the moment. It's always nice to be reminded.

Little Tree Vintage said...

wow, i loved this. thanks for posting. such a beautiful story

Shal said...

love that last line. it is so true!! great letter :)

and i too agree, your love letters should be something you pull out especially on the difficult days of marriage. sometimes i read my journal entries pre-when husband became my boyfriend, and it hits me where my heart was, and where my heart is now... and how i need to be careful to not take him and the small moments of our marriage for granted (because on some days...we're all guilty of that!)

Louise McG said...

Absolutely LOVE the last paragraph of this letter, its speaks volumes to me.
Thank you for sharing with us.


Louise xo

Mary said...

Oh it's so so true. Lovely.

jess said...

this is so lovely and so true!! I often look and my husband and think of the roads that led us to each other.. they seemed hard and unfair at times but absolutely worth it!!

Erin said...

This is beautiful and so true.

I also didn't know I'd met "the one" when I met him. I had to give our relationship time to blossom. I needed him to be my friend first. I needed time to realize he was more than just a friend. I was still looking and waiting for the perfect man, and never stopped to think he might be standing right in front of me waiting for me to say 'yes.'

Tara said...

This gives me hope.

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Mary D said...

This is so wonderful.

Grace said...

Thank you Meg... and Meg! I really needed to read this today and am so thankful for the wonderful reminder and hope for the future!

CityGirl said...

Not only does this get an "Amen" from me it also gets a hearty endorsement.
All true, Meg.
All true.

Sarah said...

Just when I feel myself giving up on love I come to your blog and get a little spark of hope.

Thanks for that

Sarah

Jess said...

Thank you for sharing this along with your love letters. I can relate in every way. It brings comfort to know I'm not the only person in the world going through this season of life...trying to be patient, knowing he WILL come.

Haven said...

that made me tear up a little.

simply simply beautiful

Melissa said...

Beautiful, beautiful... and so true.

colleen said...

wow was this awesome! so glad you got to share this with us.

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nancy said...

this gave me tears. what a beautiful letter...

I think these are happy tears. I know how that feels - to have someone know me in a way that I've never been known or loved, or UNDERSTOOD before. I have that man; I have that love. He is curled inside my heart and I feel him there - always.

L.A. said...

I cannot help but love this letter! It gives me hope about what is yet to come in my life...and really, what's better than hope?

jorjiapeach said...

beautiful.

i don't believe that finding a man is necessarily a condition for happiness. or that the "one" exists. but i definitely know how unsatisfying it is trying to convince myself of said happiness with an incompatible lover.

maybe there's a romantic hiding inside my bitter heart afterall.

annelise said...

Hope. Thanks, Meg and Meg.

Belinda said...

great letter!

you meg ladies are brilliant.

x bel.

amandamwatkins said...

I love this!! So sweet..Thank you so much both of you for sharing. Exactly what I needed to hear!

Amanda

Alex said...

So lovely and hopeful.

Francesca Forzoni said...

this has beyond made me happy today :) xx

Mackenzie said...

i'm trying so so hard not to cry happy tears in the library. thank you so so so so much for posting this. this just hit me in all the right places. so awesome.

Anonymous said...

Completely balled my eyes out. So sweet. So good.

Wandering Mind said...

love this! Thank you to both Megs for sharing. :) I need reminders like this.

kate said...

I finally took a moment to read this with my full focus and I just want to say,

wow, thank you for sharing.

As usual beautiful words, in this case another Meg's, leave me with few.

Tanu said...

wow !!

thanks for sharing....

Marissa said...

I love this letter. I love how true it is, and how honest and comforting it is.

I also love your love letters to your future husband, they have inspired me.