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6.09.2009

fat talk


so i have this thing. i call it ned. ned is the acronym (and euphemism) for my nasty little eating disorder. 

i don't always want to talk about ned. because there is more to me than this thing.

but...

it is important to talk about.

and in my quest to slay the dragon (ned) i've come across some things i'd like to share.


a website giving women a voice to challenge the limited physical representation of females in contemporary society

and on this said website i found...

2. the following video which probes into the idea of "fat talk"; to be honest when i first saw it i thought something along the lines of oh, how silly

but it's stuck with me. 

and it's made me think before i open my mouth. 

and i'm getting better and making ned into a nothing of a man (or dragon) and this has played a part... so if you have a minute (or three)...



11 comments:

Lauren Kay said...

First time commenter! Thank you for posting this video and your honesty and frankness about ned. It helps me know I'm not alone. Thanks!

Ivy Morgan said...

you are a strong girl, a surviver. don't ever let anyone tell you you are less than wonderful :)

Tina Tarnoff said...

I watched and thought it was very powerful and brilliantly made. At least the first half. It struck home with me, as I'm extremely sensitive about my body image. I've been struggling woth my eating habits, and have avoided going to the doctor, going out places, because I thought I was fat or didn't look good. And it sucks. So I say, yes, the society should bloody change the way it sees women. We are women and we are all different. Thanks for posting this. xox

Single Girl said...

This is a GREAT video to share.

Thanks

Belle said...

Wow that is an amazing video! I have definitely been known to fat talk!
Thanks for sharing darling xxx

Erin said...

This is a great video. I didn't realize that some "compliments" are really fat talk.

Meandering Me said...

Thank you for sharing the video. It struck home, and reminded me of a friend who only thinks about weight, but doesn't know anything about proper nutrition (She still thinks Gatorade is "healthier" than soda, which, sadly, it is not...)
Again, thank you.

Kirsten said...

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I have always had massive issues with my weight and I'm terrified that I'll somehow pass them on to my kids, especially my daughter. I've been making a concious effort to not talk about weight, calories, or being unhappy with my looks.

And I want to live life and show her that nothing, especially not anything as silly as your weight or what someone else might think of you, should stop you from living your life to the fullest. I've already gone swimming with them this summer and while I was SOOO self concious in my bathing suit, I don't want to miss those moments with my children.

My husband is very into appearances, he works out 4 times a week and really watches what he eats. I'm constantly getting after him for talking about something having too many calories, wanting to lose 10 pounds, or whatever- seriously he looks fantastic- around our kids.

I want them to understand that they are beautiful regardless of their looks because what they look like is such a small part of them. There are so many more wonderful and powerful ways that a person is beautiful.

Now if only I can believe about myself what I genuinely believe for my children. Good times.

The Rookie said...

Thank you for sharing this! I think we need to be cautious in how we define human beauty. There are so many subversive messages out there for men and women about their bodies. We need to end this awful cycle of unrealistic beauty and the negative self-talk we engage in because of it.

Alexandra said...

Definitely read all your Ned links... um, are you me? I swear, we have extremely freakishly similar Ned experience.

Intuitive Eating is amazing. It's the only way!

Hanako66 said...

I am so proud of you.

This really makes me see things differently.