tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post7924317521817370693..comments2023-09-09T06:12:36.477-04:00Comments on the wild and wily ways of a brunette bombshell: what began as an open letter to the boy who followed just behind me in the park yesterday.meg feehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16588092985523441189noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-37221875544976610562009-12-11T11:10:37.364-05:002009-12-11T11:10:37.364-05:00The guy definitely has to be worth it... especiall...The guy definitely has to be worth it... especially for the kids. Well put.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960560428297393947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-61089014815045142172009-12-10T10:10:49.028-05:002009-12-10T10:10:49.028-05:00I like this post...however, being married to a man...I like this post...however, being married to a man who was once a boy like the one you describe above...I would like to note that sometimes there are those boys who love a woman enough to out grow boyish behavior in order to provide and receive her love....but thats just my experience :)M. Eileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01919467161177215856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-81472113715819948922009-12-10T01:18:07.647-05:002009-12-10T01:18:07.647-05:00I love your posts.
I love this post!
you put thi...I love your posts. <br />I love this post! <br />you put things in such good perspective. i wish i can verbalize some of my thoughts as well as you do.<br /><br />but anyway i agree with you - maybe our biological clock sees beyond what we do. my first thought when i meet a guy is "Where is he going with his life?"<br /><br />kudos.Sofyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16535047705322504755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-70370053785087015042009-12-10T00:22:19.378-05:002009-12-10T00:22:19.378-05:00:) My best friend and me joke sometimes about how ...:) My best friend and me joke sometimes about how our 'high standards' will keep us unmarried forever...*sigh*Diahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02600048558386919537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-72207067786961258382009-12-09T22:54:00.466-05:002009-12-09T22:54:00.466-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-71622815100919518242009-12-09T21:45:56.484-05:002009-12-09T21:45:56.484-05:00You know, I originally wrote some long drawn out c...You know, I originally wrote some long drawn out comment, about how I agree and how I love and relate to the ballgame/worth paragraph.<br /><br />But you know what? All I really have to say is <br /><br />AMEN!Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12676796437713875861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-4135085892464480342009-12-09T19:56:03.168-05:002009-12-09T19:56:03.168-05:00Amen! You totally get it. Some women never do, b...Amen! You totally get it. Some women never do, but you, you are lucky. You get it.<br /><br />Boys who stake a claim on manhood seem to miss the mark. Boys who have to chemically alter their state of mind and being in order to "enjoy" life or find the "courage" to be bold are just not attractive either. <br /><br />You are not settling, but you already know that. Please refuse to settle for anything less than that feeling of security and rightness that will be when HE enters your life.<br /><br />Much love, the hopeful romantic with impossibly high ideals very similar to yours<br /><br />p.s. I love what *Donna* said in her post and echo it wholeheartedly.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450107285194913871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-45274620637972098312009-12-09T19:39:36.356-05:002009-12-09T19:39:36.356-05:00yeah, to guys who still smoke pot i always want to...yeah, to guys who still smoke pot i always want to say- go back to 8th grade!angelina la dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834861842890868386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-67715895993471746372009-12-09T18:49:14.959-05:002009-12-09T18:49:14.959-05:00what an interesting and thought provoking post...i...what an interesting and thought provoking post...its funny for me, one day, it just hit me that the type of man i thought i wanted wasn't what i wanted at all. taste does change and so do values and interests. <br /><br />i tell my current boyfriend and probably future husband all the time that its not simply that i love him or that i'm attracted to him but i actually feel a biological, evolutionary need to have children with him. i actually want his children to be my children. weird huh? maybe even borderline crazy. i chalk it up to the fact that i think we're incredibly compatible genetically. <br />who knows? <br /><br />all i know is that as soon as i really re-evaluated what i wanted in life and figured out what kind of man could give me what i wanted, i found him.<br /><br />and definitely no floppy hats here either. <br />again, i loved your post. you're brilliantAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00654998542214440424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-76330437095380445362009-12-09T18:17:04.949-05:002009-12-09T18:17:04.949-05:00i love this post - this is me 2 years ago when my ...i love this post - this is me 2 years ago when my friends said i was settling for my now fiance.<br /><br />he's kind, stable and most importantly, loves me immensely.<br /><br />i was never settling. i was learning from terrible mistakes i had made in the past. i had identified traits i wanted to exist in my future husband (and those i definitely did not!).<br /><br />this boy wasn't arrogant, captain of the football team or the loudest boy in the crowd. instead, he was all mine.<br /><br />i wasn't settling. i had merely grown up - don't be afraid of that :0)*donna*https://www.blogger.com/profile/01390639289905981935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-75639777535307393492009-12-09T17:41:49.835-05:002009-12-09T17:41:49.835-05:00don't you worry miss meg, relationships come i...don't you worry miss meg, relationships come in all shapes and sizes. there is no mold for the perfect man. <br /><br />who knows, maybe there is a stable, loving, scruffy, tattooed man out there just for you!iheartkiwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16826856044690823004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-1612606448660201932009-12-09T17:14:37.302-05:002009-12-09T17:14:37.302-05:00you have your head on right. that's why i appr...you have your head on right. that's why i appreciate your comments so much, thanks for lending me your brains!<br /><br />I hope your Advent season is treating you well!Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03667089316081949532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-60326353920054500802009-12-09T16:59:05.196-05:002009-12-09T16:59:05.196-05:00i think finding your blog was the highlight of my ...i think finding your blog was the highlight of my day. scratch that, week!!<br />i adore everything about it & you.<br />hugs-<br />AnnaAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02226583302550448103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-42521701079718337972009-12-09T16:45:25.102-05:002009-12-09T16:45:25.102-05:00Hear hear!!! I am always made fun of for my high s...Hear hear!!! I am always made fun of for my high standards, but I keep them for a reason.<br />I'm glad I'm not the only one :)A Sunday Kind Of Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09944002367518296569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-45847047009614530192009-12-09T16:44:20.070-05:002009-12-09T16:44:20.070-05:00Totally! I believe 3 important things that help yo...Totally! I believe 3 important things that help you to find your soul mate are:<br />1. Knowing yourself<br />2. Knowing what you don't want<br />3. Knowing what you do want<br /><br />Looks like the first 2 are in the bag love!<br /><br />Nothing wrong with standards honey! My husband had had one girlfriend (when he was 19) before he met me at 30. He says he wasn't interested in spending time with people he wasn't truly and utterly in love with... it saved him so much of the heartache I went through. Having said that... he is a much more stable and evolved character than I and I needed to go through the shit in order to learn those 3 things in order to send him my way.Karlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863180811146009322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-86051868497327958712009-12-09T16:10:22.416-05:002009-12-09T16:10:22.416-05:00go with this. it will save you from confusing, hea...go with this. it will save you from confusing, heartbreaking, time wasting relationships with the wrong boy. there is no doubt in my mind that you will waltz right into the arms of a wonderful man who will make a strong, loving husband and father.Brittanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692984513903377686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-13203472749686878562009-12-09T14:57:39.096-05:002009-12-09T14:57:39.096-05:00you are fantastic.
i've never had a boyfriend...you are fantastic.<br /><br />i've never had a boyfriend, yet my "crushes" have changed drastically over the years in personality. i'm not just interested in them because they're cute or handsome, but then i start forming that idea that they'd make a wonderful husband and father.<br /><br />whoa. just whoa.<br />you summed it up perfectly.Belenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11276491482922136614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-87451695400157403002009-12-09T14:44:05.547-05:002009-12-09T14:44:05.547-05:00amen to miss olivia's comment.
THAT would be a...amen to miss olivia's comment.<br />THAT would be a book with "dog ears and coffee stains"<br /><br />i love this.<br />really and truly.<br />xo<br />ee.wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16076841341619765842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-66054998468649767142009-12-09T14:28:29.012-05:002009-12-09T14:28:29.012-05:00yeah.
yes.
i know this.
i love wanting something...yeah. <br />yes.<br /><br />i know this.<br />i love wanting something worth it.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15882610343505172301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-3389635191312013932009-12-09T13:48:28.245-05:002009-12-09T13:48:28.245-05:00Perhaps I misread this post, but if I got it right...Perhaps I misread this post, but if I got it right...<br /><br />...isn't it super fantastic when you know yourself well enough that you can look at someone and say, "No. It's not you" ?<br /><br />I'm getting so much better at that. When I first started doing it, at first I reprimanded myself for being too picky or exclusive or judging a book by its cover.<br /><br />I don't care about that anymore because what's the point in telling yourself you could learn to like croakies (which are VERY big in the south... blech) if you haven't even met the guy yet?Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10258060786685150002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-89232468534584372392009-12-09T13:46:10.413-05:002009-12-09T13:46:10.413-05:00Meg, you are so lovely. This described in almost ...Meg, you are so lovely. This described in almost perfect terms what I went through in finding my husband. He sure as Hell was not the kind of guy I EVER thought I would 'settle' for, and yet, he is the best thing to have ever happened to me. It seems that all the appearance based things I had been looking for didn't quite mesh with the standards I had set as far as morality, life goals, and devotion went. <br /><br />If my choice is considered by anyone as settling, then I reccommend it to all women!Ross & Amanda Goodman- but mostly Amanda :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02597257765841792770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-6277350999477183452009-12-09T13:22:15.436-05:002009-12-09T13:22:15.436-05:00This is completely spot-on.This is completely spot-on.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03432976266143221608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-61600048289518089722009-12-09T13:21:17.449-05:002009-12-09T13:21:17.449-05:00loved reading this post and all the comments. i ca...loved reading this post and all the comments. i can't wait till you write a book meg.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303487463979785469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-36232367134545849042009-12-09T13:20:44.213-05:002009-12-09T13:20:44.213-05:00LOVE this post, and totally get it. You put it per...LOVE this post, and totally get it. You put it perfectly.<br /><br />We won't settle!ruthpclarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11605541360880665779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-48708335145397224782009-12-09T13:14:46.205-05:002009-12-09T13:14:46.205-05:00YES! Biological clock or not, I think we all grow...YES! Biological clock or not, I think we all grow to a point where stability is essential. I call it The Goodness Factor. Goodness connoting stability and similar goals and maturity and an ethically, deliberately lived life. THAT so completely outshadows scruffy sexiness. Goodness IS sexy.The Rookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07856225364926460372noreply@blogger.com