tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post535370667130415853..comments2023-09-09T06:12:36.477-04:00Comments on the wild and wily ways of a brunette bombshell: attraction and expectation. meg feehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16588092985523441189noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-35624081307067540492013-03-01T16:29:46.137-05:002013-03-01T16:29:46.137-05:00Is it possible to have the spark and then lose it?...Is it possible to have the spark and then lose it? Or, is it that the spark never existed in the first place and we only say we "lost" it to either lessen the guilt of rejecting someone or lessen the pain of being rejected? Thoughts?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11935099420055515623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-27555792043902394432013-03-01T11:02:08.813-05:002013-03-01T11:02:08.813-05:00You are such. such. a beautiful writer. The way yo...You are such. such. a beautiful writer. The way you can write everything we've only subconsciously thought and never put words too. This blog is like therapy without even realizing it :)Rebecca Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02636914951284660717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-7338611557496164492012-12-17T17:09:22.660-05:002012-12-17T17:09:22.660-05:00I had a standard break up line for all those "...I had a standard break up line for all those "not the one" men I met when I was in that part of my life; before I met my salt and pepper bearded whole, complete, feminist loving, manly man. I will share it. Refine it. Change it to suit your voice but never feel bad for using it when "he" is not the right one for you, no matter what anyone thinks. First, I would pick up the tab for the coffee or drink the night or day I decided that I'd decided. I would say some version of - "thank you so much for these last couple dates, days, weeks (insert whichever fits). You are an amazing or kind or thoughtful or interesting (insert whatever fits) man. I respect you and do not want to waste your time or mine by continuing to date when I know that I do not feel like this is going to go anywhere beyond where it has. You are going to make someone very happy and I do not want to keep you from her. After that depended in the guy and his response but with a little further conversation we always were able to part amicably. Just hold your position that you don't feel it. You are amazing and should never settle! Good for you for knowing yourself. Colleen K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10635297733090912995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-9922897634885662562012-11-17T10:36:13.140-05:002012-11-17T10:36:13.140-05:00Dear Meg, and other readers,
I just want to let y...Dear Meg, and other readers,<br /><br />I just want to let you know that such. men. do. exist.<br /><br />Last month, I became engaged (after a whirlwind 6 months - so that can happen too!) to a man who is THE MANLIEST and most mature man I have ever met. No video games for him. Yale-educated, tall, and hunky, he cooks for me and reads philosophy FOR FUN. He challenges me and we have the best discussions about religion, politics, you name it. And he really, really wants children.<br /><br />Guess what else? We are both 23. <br /><br />I did not settle or compromise. And he was abundantly worth the wait. REAL MEN still exist, and they are not all over 60 (as I once thought). <br /><br />Yours is coming, soon. Til then, keep faith. <br /><br />LillianLillianhttp://thesearchforsomethingbeautiful.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-87501532489465640762012-11-16T11:09:09.617-05:002012-11-16T11:09:09.617-05:00Incredible.
Your posts about your partner-to-be ...Incredible. <br /><br />Your posts about your partner-to-be are my favorites and I think this one ranks up there with your very best.<br /><br />I feel like a broken record when I tell my nieces and my daughter not to settle, to know what they want, who they want, and to keep on looking until they find him. <br /><br />Thankfully it seems 2 of the 4 have accomplished that, and I'm hoping the other 2 do soon...<br /><br />You can find that "one" and you will still have a bad day or two, or several. But the important thing is to know what the non-negotiables are, and stick to your guns.Krys72599https://www.blogger.com/profile/13794562208024400426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-86021472266994284052012-11-15T18:13:16.178-05:002012-11-15T18:13:16.178-05:00well i've got chills from head to toe. so bea...well i've got chills from head to toe. so beautiful, as always. and i just nod my head, and know you'll find that sort of Man. They exist. and i'm crossing my fingers and saying a prayer he comes quick to your side. sweeeeps you up, fights for you, protects you, values you, and makes you feel like the beautiful woman you are. <br /><br />and i want to punch this anonymous in the face. if you find her, she's got a knuckle sandwich coming for her. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16957601884372364541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-39690866162942847402012-11-15T15:16:55.063-05:002012-11-15T15:16:55.063-05:00I found my way to that blog you mentioned and wow,...I found my way to that blog you mentioned and wow, I didn't even know there people out there that still thought this way. <br /><br />I can't even imagine. Truly, I can't, particularly concerning abusive relationships. Makes me ill. It's one of those times that I wish I hadn't learned about a particular "school of thought." It's so hard to comprehend. katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02468300052767181221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-23774188472803566382012-11-14T20:25:39.139-05:002012-11-14T20:25:39.139-05:00I have to say, I am not yet 18 and this is still e...I have to say, I am not yet 18 and this is still exactly what I want.<br />Maybe the boys I know can sense this and it's why I don't currently have a boyfriend... And while I may be frustrated with that fact, I shall never never never compromise on the fact that I do want a good Man.<br />Thank you for being a like-minded soul. Meg, you are such a wonderful voice to hear, especially as a not-yet-adult.<br />Mairead<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-87949891154141833412012-11-14T18:58:11.372-05:002012-11-14T18:58:11.372-05:00Yes. And yes and yes and yes. I'm still learni...Yes. And yes and yes and yes. I'm still learning what I want. I took 4 years of marriage and divorce. It's taken nearly a year of another mistaken relationship to narrow it down further. I was deceived by his age, but he still seems to think he's in college. I've also learned that after a certain age, you really need to move away from college towns. Move back in middle age if you so choose, but I'm starting to think it stunts your growth. Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02367746017041068855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-66389336999662014012012-11-14T18:01:32.166-05:002012-11-14T18:01:32.166-05:00@ginger: moulding a boy into a man?! could anythin...@ginger: moulding a boy into a man?! could anything possibly sound MORE EXHAUSTING? also what a terrible thing to wake up in 20 years and find you hate the very think you created. blah. <br />meg feehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16588092985523441189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-80868762346990301242012-11-14T15:56:38.685-05:002012-11-14T15:56:38.685-05:00also single, also 27, and this completely resonate...also single, also 27, and this completely resonated with me, especially the paragraph about what you want in a man. thank you! kmm22https://www.blogger.com/profile/03727389427417646741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-75559561040183481292012-11-14T14:05:45.276-05:002012-11-14T14:05:45.276-05:00Yes! I worked in women's rights at the UN for ...Yes! I worked in women's rights at the UN for ten blasted years and met very few who had any grasp on actual feminism. And then I tell my friends I want a MAN and they say a boy is better because you can mould him into whatever you want...more evidence of a screwy perception of feminism. Gah.<br /><br />ginger from the style of beinghttp://thestyleofbeing.blogspot.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-932195991047688162012-11-14T08:13:36.648-05:002012-11-14T08:13:36.648-05:00Love. Love. Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06065547736203978065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-8343159702174176832012-11-13T22:43:48.596-05:002012-11-13T22:43:48.596-05:00Thank you for this. Amazing.Thank you for this. Amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-15585755501707548712012-11-13T20:40:01.143-05:002012-11-13T20:40:01.143-05:00Yes! This is pure perfection, Meg! I cannot tell y...Yes! This is pure perfection, Meg! I cannot tell you how much I admire this. And even more, how I agree. I cannot even count how many times I have been told to lower my expectations--be it for friendships, relationships, etc. But you are right in believing that at a certain age (or any age) it is okay to expect certain things, especially if you are also willing to be those very things. I am tired of having to explain myself to people who insist that I lower my standards--maturity, respect, honesty, integrity, chemistry--why shouldn't I want these things? What should I lower my expectations to? I mean, good lord, is it really too much to ask for? I think not! And I am so impressed and relieved to see that someone else feels this passionately about it because people have broken me down for it, and it's a shame. We should never settle. I can't wait to read your love story one day! It's coming!Diananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-13119767881846126082012-11-13T19:13:06.520-05:002012-11-13T19:13:06.520-05:00maaan i love this. you're amazing! so well put...maaan i love this. you're amazing! so well put. <br />and i loved the rant in the middle, it made me giggle :o) Sonjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12459460252068395786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-15318596374673029562012-11-13T15:01:24.461-05:002012-11-13T15:01:24.461-05:00I loved this. Thank you for your beautiful words. ...I loved this. Thank you for your beautiful words. As a follower of Christ myself, I am saddened that so many Christians have advocated this across-the-board submission. The Bible teaches that men and women are equal in Christ, and Jesus was certainly an advocate for women in his day, when they were much more devalued than now. Having expectations and desires is a great thing! Keep it up Meg. Bethany Kemminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05384840466799451206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-34863846936890467012012-11-13T14:51:41.186-05:002012-11-13T14:51:41.186-05:00this is lovely meg. it always shocks me that one o...this is lovely meg. it always shocks me that one of the most common sayings about expectation is to have none, less you find yourself disappointed. and that is so sad!<br /><br />to me, there is so much wisdom in believing for something that's not in front of you at the moment..or faith wouldn't exist. yes, there's a reality to all things. but how hopelessly depressing would life be if we didn't write those letters to future husbands (or if you didn't let us read them!)...what would our world look like without dreamers?<br /><br />in my opinion, dreamers will continually propel the all the non-dreamers into a realm of hope, a state of looking-forwardness that everybody else can't seem to grasp so freely (seemingly). <br /><br />that dreamer—although not just *ending up* as a dreamer—is the one with a confident sparkle in their eye, who perpetually sees that which is not yet in front of them, a pioneer of sorts who's realm of hope extends beyond the rest of us, and they will never be disappointed. dreaming is not weak and it is most certainly not foolish. and we will always need—yet be highly critical of—the dreamer. and, to me, you are a dreamer dear meg...caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11403947956016204669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-24742102356697264572012-11-13T14:42:42.932-05:002012-11-13T14:42:42.932-05:00ugh, Meg. You with the words. So seemingly easily ...ugh, Meg. You with the words. So seemingly easily and effortlessly putting into words things I feel and have felt but couldn't find the words to say myself. Beautiful. Simply beautiful.<br /><br />"...moved past the sort of heartbreak that threatens a forever-sort-of-haunt"<br /><br />Isn't that a wonderful place to be? To me, it speaks of incredible personal strength and confidence. Love those words so much.~BB~https://www.blogger.com/profile/17768890868603258840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-3433129500775381272012-11-13T13:35:35.824-05:002012-11-13T13:35:35.824-05:00Wow. wow wow wow. I don't think I have ever ...Wow. wow wow wow. I don't think I have ever heard anything so perfectly applicable to my life. Honestly, I want to hug you. Or just be your friend. Your thoughts and expectations are RIGHT on! I've never heard it stated so perfectly and exquisitely. We SHOULD want to feel challenged and enveloped by a man. Thank you for this. Your mind is brilliant.Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01285715619510125647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-74599034010655663492012-11-13T13:22:09.504-05:002012-11-13T13:22:09.504-05:00"I want to feel enveloped by a man. I want to..."I want to feel enveloped by a man. I want to feel absolutely challenged." <br />Amen to this, sister. Amen to all of it.<br />xoxo,<br />Sierra<br /><a href="http://sierraainge.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Oh, Just Living the Dream </a>Sierra @ Sierra's Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10987108469228128361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-91256088343872566552012-11-13T12:58:22.638-05:002012-11-13T12:58:22.638-05:00Hi Meg. I recently found your blog through Motley ...Hi Meg. I recently found your blog through Motley Mama Kate's (so I know exactly to which blog post you are referring and I have to say you articulated much of my outrage in an eloquent and sensible way, so thank you for that). You are a wonderful writer and your blog is a gem. Thank you.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17038449502297325198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-42812547887831154222012-11-13T12:29:45.351-05:002012-11-13T12:29:45.351-05:00yes. yes to it all. i was just talking to a few fr...yes. yes to it all. i was just talking to a few friends/roommates about men.. and it's because we're different and i want different things out of life than them, but some just don't understand. feminism. and wanting a MAN. i agree with an above comment - write a book? i'd buy it. this is why i read your words.. brilliant. thank you thank you.Shawneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581114725418981503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-79689236071284441712012-11-13T11:55:57.594-05:002012-11-13T11:55:57.594-05:00I love this blog, this post and your writing. I fe...I love this blog, this post and your writing. I feel like you give words to feelings I have had lately. Love it!Rryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17504976860336367117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-21100305369470715732012-11-13T11:36:47.496-05:002012-11-13T11:36:47.496-05:00That paragraph about wanting to be enveloped by a ...That paragraph about wanting to be enveloped by a man. So so perfect!mary katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06553264101361817787noreply@blogger.com