tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post3243111254926123492..comments2023-09-09T06:12:36.477-04:00Comments on the wild and wily ways of a brunette bombshell: blogging and morality. i have some questions.meg feehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16588092985523441189noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-21184786651633890022010-04-25T20:48:01.186-04:002010-04-25T20:48:01.186-04:00P.S. You could always just make a blog without nam...P.S. You could always just make a blog without names. One that keeps you entirely unnamed to readers. Takes away part of the fun I suppose.Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04920748451217946492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-8478701660874911922010-04-25T20:46:11.072-04:002010-04-25T20:46:11.072-04:00A friend of mine showed me your blog. I must say t...A friend of mine showed me your blog. I must say that I have contemplated the complexities of this quandary on more than one occasion. I actually had a girlfriend get me started in blogging. I did it at first just to get her more interested in me. I think it worked partly because I found that I had a surprising ability for writing hidden beneath the crust of my personality. <br /><br />After she and I broke up I continued because it was my source of catharsis. I needed to cleanse my soul and release emotional disappointment. Plus I simply enjoyed writing. <br /><br />So first, Kyle (commented up above) is right. Men Google. A lot. Second I agree with Ashley (commented first). Life is about relationships. Relationships are complicated enough that we don't need secluded, secret sites. So I think our boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses etc should know about our blogs. Also, I'd like to think that I'm strong enough to be able to say anything to my currently non-existent girlfriend that I would say via blogging. <br /><br />Bottom line: I think we have to be careful. Whether blogging, texting, or emailing we sometimes have a tendency to write things we would never say to their faces.Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04920748451217946492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-1103806849985891392010-04-21T17:07:10.439-04:002010-04-21T17:07:10.439-04:00What is the truth? This is one thing that one must...What is the truth? This is one thing that one must establish prior to any discussion concerning a (potential) line between truth and fiction. What is fiction? We all tend to believe what it is, yet. how can it be defined? The opposite of truth? Then, what is truth? The opposite of fiction? A vicious circle, indeed. I have only one answer to give you (which you have already used in your latest post), there are only <b>pieces</b> of truth (your truth, to use your wording)! Eventually, even as one tries, honestly tries! to tell the true story, it shall always be one's side of the truth...What to blog about? The same that you would put in a novel. As your mother said (and mothers are always right!), a blog s never a diary (for diaries, by definition, are private! blogs are not - except those that one needs an invitation for!). Cheers!Imolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15885006269071565159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-81256937298227569352010-04-19T16:28:48.748-04:002010-04-19T16:28:48.748-04:00Don't tell him about the blog. Not at first. ...Don't tell him about the blog. Not at first. Don't hide it, or lie about it, or go out of your way to keep it from him. But don't go out of your way to make him aware of it either. Wait a very long while before you share that part of yourself with him. He may not understand or take it the right way if you share it too soon. Don't do it.Rachel F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06967023620593706852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-36847714636418209082010-04-19T11:41:00.796-04:002010-04-19T11:41:00.796-04:00I have gotten myself in trouble by being too hones...I have gotten myself in trouble by being too honest on my blog before.. ex-boyfriends, my sister-in-law etc.. have been offended my what I've written and so I have scaled down immensely the "personal" aspect of my blog, but to be honest... i miss it! I miss pouring my heart out on the internet for all to read.. your post made me think that maybe I should start again!<br /><br />ps my mother thinks that since I've had a baby I must have short hair for the rest of my life.. she says "most women cut their hair after having a child, they don't grow it out".. I am currently growing my hair long- despite what my mother tells me!!jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17138184854578315674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-14626429465364933612010-04-19T09:30:53.342-04:002010-04-19T09:30:53.342-04:00this blog is your journey and there's never a ...this blog is your journey and there's never a need to censor your own thoughts.<br /><br />you can't edit your own adventure before you even know what your next one is. chances are, the man you're going to marry is going to appreciate your openess and way with words.<br /><br />and maybe the day will come when you'll need the bid the blog and your open journal adieu. but until then, please don't leave us?D&Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10686137251268757214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-24048384601185176562010-04-18T16:38:14.993-04:002010-04-18T16:38:14.993-04:00that is the exact same reason i blog. like... all ...that is the exact same reason i blog. like... all of that. i recently posted probably way too much information about someone, and i struggled with whether or not it was the right thing to do. in the end, it was something i had to do. i had to get it out, i had to be honest with people who have seen this stuff going on with me and wondered what was up... and i needed to be honest with myself like you can only be in a public forum. besides, he's more than welcome to put his side of the story out there if he wants to. <br /><br />as for the dating situation... i have no idea. i think about that all the time. i think it's better if he knows. how awkward would it be to blog about him and then he finds it on his own?! and i don't think it's realistic to never blog about him. this is where you talk about your life and that's a part of your life. i definitely think someone you're dating should see your blog before you ever blog about them. i keep a link to my blog as my status on gchat and on my twitter so that anyone who communicates with me online can easily find it. <br /><br />and men TOTALLY google. that i know for a fact.Brittanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692984513903377686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-86661167864310893112010-04-18T09:56:38.957-04:002010-04-18T09:56:38.957-04:00I love the open-ended questions!
I think you can t...I love the open-ended questions!<br />I think you can trust your own sensitivity to determine the line of discretion- it seems like you've done so all along. <br />I have to disagree that 'the right man for you will read every post and co-blog with you, etc, etc'. He may, but he may not. He may have completely different interests, and still be your soulmate. This blog is an expression of aspects of you- it's not your essence. And as such, it doesn't need to be your soulmate's essence either, it could be a compliment to his own unique expressions. <br />By the way, book recommendation:<br />"I Only Want to Get Married Once" by Chana Levitan.Shoshana https://www.blogger.com/profile/17732845480461121963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-20626621300116345132010-04-17T22:12:08.786-04:002010-04-17T22:12:08.786-04:00so just a random thought i have always had...is i ...so just a random thought i have always had...is i dont know that i want my man toy be to read my blog before I am ready...I share so much more on my blog than i would in person. its just easier for me. Especially since i write letters to HIM I wouldnt want him to read them before I am ready...so personally. i would rather him not read it before...ya know...not sure if that is possible.<br />I do refrain from posting pictures of other peoples kids in case they are opposed to having those pictures up online ya know....Krissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18275454962470560740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-91455523937907534062010-04-17T21:58:22.409-04:002010-04-17T21:58:22.409-04:00Good question Meg...share if you find the answer t...Good question Meg...share if you find the answer to striking a balance.Mrs. Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11446388323554945750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-75753819832455394552010-04-17T21:36:31.173-04:002010-04-17T21:36:31.173-04:00That is THE question. Writing...I mean really wri...That is THE question. Writing...I mean really writing for the "public" has always made me nervous, or iffy, or identity crisis-y. I for one am glad you write what you write. It completely resonates and rings true. My friends and love your letters to husband.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07624119475264306016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-76573691292534822372010-04-17T17:01:57.921-04:002010-04-17T17:01:57.921-04:00I think about this a lot. A LOT.
It's so hard...I think about this a lot. A LOT.<br /><br />It's so hard to find a balance, but I think at the end of the day, it's an individual decision. I've read blogs where girls spill ALL and then think, what if the guy reads this/finds this/something like that and runs away scared? It could happen. And I personally would hate to know that I scared a guy away because he found my blog. I don't know. I'm rambling but only because this thought has crossed my mind so many times. I guess for me, I'll decide when I have to.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18290197769653336102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-10167278258795964642010-04-17T16:16:47.273-04:002010-04-17T16:16:47.273-04:00I've wondered this same thing many times becau...I've wondered this same thing many times because sometimes I feel like so much of what I write about is exposing the complicated side of who I am. <br /><br />I would feel vulnerable talking to a boy I liked about most of this stuff.<br /><br />But I don't feel uncomfortable telling the whole world. Weird.<br /><br />I think I've just accepted that: this is me. this is who I am and he's going to find out sooner or later. <br /><br />With that said, there are still things I prefer to keep in a journal by my bed, rather than a corner of the web.<br /><br />You are great. Don't change who you are or who you write about being.Laura Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05295140911033603141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-16265383887913628602010-04-17T01:31:36.593-04:002010-04-17T01:31:36.593-04:00I love being known as a funny or creative blogger ...I love being known as a funny or creative blogger but sometimes I just want to put some honesty or emotions out there but always end up worrying too much about who will read it and what they will think of me. That's why I love your blog. You put it all out there.kura2025https://www.blogger.com/profile/07638278895017888403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-6674315065664777072010-04-16T21:19:42.779-04:002010-04-16T21:19:42.779-04:00i think you should share as much as you want to sh...i think you should share as much as you want to share. i say everything i feel like saying on my blog, and i keep the rest to myself. it might surprise some people to know that there ARE, in fact, some things i will not discuss on my blog, some things that are mine only. no one else can have them. <br /><br />as for guys you date, my advice would be not to tell them until they have earned the right to know. you aren't obligated to tell them. and they shouldn't learn things about you until they prove themselves worthy to know you. <br /><br />and i kind of agree with your mom - you shouldn't have to edit yourself for a man. (and not all guys google - most men i know are pretty lazy about facebook, and they're not on the internet as much as we are.) when the time comes to decide how much you should share about the man in your life, i think you'll make good decisions. just go with your gut. :)jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081876926389855583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-90689621160009436052010-04-16T20:53:53.561-04:002010-04-16T20:53:53.561-04:00Wow... *your feelings and *hurt their's
Sorry...Wow... *your feelings and *hurt their's<br /><br />Sorry for the bad grammar. No excuse, I would say I'm overly tired from packing up my house all day, but that's not a good excuse.The Lewicutt'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165951965661005884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-26317347875189525322010-04-16T20:47:32.760-04:002010-04-16T20:47:32.760-04:00I've been thinking about this a lot lately too...I've been thinking about this a lot lately too. <br /><br />About a month ago my sister asked what I'm going to do if "the guy" found my blog and read it. I replied that he would {hopefully} never find it because boys don't read blogs. Oh, and because googling my name isn't the same as goodling yours. <br /><br />Plus, my ex boyfriend knew I had a blog and he never read it, so I just assumed guys aren't really interested. <br /><br />So basically, this is my way of saying that I have no idea the answers to any of your questions. I feel like my situation is a bit different than yours, because so many more people read your blog than mine, but that just might be justification at its finest. But I do think that if the guy knows about the blog, he should be able to read it as much as he likes, and I don't think he should have to tell you every time he reads it. So basically the question becomes whether or not to tell, and whether or not to edit on his behalf.<br /><br />Longest comment ever providing no help. Sorry and good luck!karajeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02915226080433424430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-12352302019643188352010-04-16T20:46:41.312-04:002010-04-16T20:46:41.312-04:00Hmmm, the line between privacy and truth. I think ...Hmmm, the line between privacy and truth. I think it's different for every person. It's whatever your comfortable with. It's all truth- but not every truth has to be shared, nor should every truth be shared- unless you're comfortable with it. And in a relationship- unless both parties are comfortable with the truth's being shared. <br /><br />And, to your mother's point, you probably will start (not lying) censoring your truths a bit more if you reveal the blog to someone you're dating and you have a story that you would like to share you feelings about, but don't want to hurt there's. So you may water down the intensity of your truths to avoid hurt feelings.<br /><br />I say don't tell until later in the relationship... mainly because I like you uncensored. :-) But eventually if it turns into a lasting relationship, it'll be impossible to keep it from him.The Lewicutt'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165951965661005884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-15151579177899880222010-04-16T19:48:40.179-04:002010-04-16T19:48:40.179-04:00Men Google : ) ...... a lot.
-with love,
KyleMen Google : ) ...... a lot.<br /><br />-with love,<br /><br />KyleKylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08827556692520722349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-34328208846907824362010-04-16T17:53:59.400-04:002010-04-16T17:53:59.400-04:00i know when i first started josh (my fiance) didnt...i know when i first started josh (my fiance) didnt know i was. it was a place for me to let out all i was feeling or thinking well not all but most, and get feedback from complete strangers. which was comforting to me. when josh found out, or i told him, i caught myself thining back to every post making sure i hadn't said anything that might hurt him.. blah blah. there wasnt anything but there were some things i think he had a new view on and to him it made him feel like complete strangers knew me better than he did, which wasnt true at all! so i suppose the only thing is how much you care to share and if it's a lot then stand beside that and anyone worthy of your time will understand. i've definitely taken my blog down a few notches in the personal area as of late and it's more enjoyable that way for me:)nicole mountzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01776049759431095742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-74427642622846966772010-04-16T17:52:20.669-04:002010-04-16T17:52:20.669-04:00Whatever the reason...you help me get through my d...Whatever the reason...you help me get through my day. AND I love your busted elbow jean jacket.mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215353359830931825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-67020003014486296512010-04-16T17:39:08.394-04:002010-04-16T17:39:08.394-04:00I think he'd love to read it. And make it easi...I think he'd love to read it. And make it easier for you too, since speech doesn't come as easy as writing. But then, once he comes along, I'm affraid you won't be as open with us as you are now :p You'll have someone, the One, to share your thoughts with and you'll never need anything else.<br />xoxoDiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02600048558386919537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-68921017774957891862010-04-16T15:47:45.351-04:002010-04-16T15:47:45.351-04:00I totally understand your dilemma. When I still ha...I totally understand your dilemma. When I still had my old blog, so many questions loomed around: Do I tell him? Do I blog about him (and announce to the world, perhaps preemtively, what is going on)? Do I hold it in and wait until we're a sure thing? I eventually did a lukewarm combo of all three. As it turns out the relationship went sour and he found out some of my struggles by, well, reading my blog. In the end I wish I'd been honest on both ends--with him and in my writing. Because blogging isn't just about the "happy endings" but also about the journey to get there. (However, I started my current blog *after* I'd already gotten married to my husband. So no awkwardness to speak of at all! Phew!)carmen @ life blessonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11436197171458180834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-60639063740645880602010-04-16T14:54:18.702-04:002010-04-16T14:54:18.702-04:00You bring up some excellent questions! I don'...You bring up some excellent questions! I don't think you are obligated, in any way, to disclose your blog at the beginning of a relationship. Most likely, it will come up in discussion, and then I think it will seem natural to talk about your blog . . . but there's a fairly decent chance that your future/potential "he" won't have any interest in it. haha. That's what I've found to be the case, anyway!Claire Kieferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15794131643377703649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-55538118685479096962010-04-16T14:39:15.607-04:002010-04-16T14:39:15.607-04:00It's like you're taking a page out of my b...It's like you're taking a page out of my book or...er a post out of my blog? <br /><br />My Man Friend and I started dating a little over 6 months ago. I am completely in love with this man. Why am I telling you this? It made all the difference in the world.<br /><br />My blog was mostly about relationships so obviously, art imitates life and my relationships were often talked about. When Mr. Man Friend and I started seeing each other, we had a very open and honest conversation about my blog because he had been reading it since we knew each other. He knew the tone and topics. He told me that he supported me 110% and does not want me to stop writing but he does want me to keep our private life private and not use a blog as a platform to air grievances. I completely agreed. Why does it matter that I love him? It matter because I've never agreed to those terms with anyone else. I've always taken the "if you don't like it, don't read it" stance.<br /><br />It's different with him. <br /><br />SO here we are nearly 7 months later and my blog has morphed itself and I have to say, it's more popular now then it was then. The best part is, I've gotten my wonderful MF to guest blog several times and there's nothing more beautiful than creating something wonderful with a beautiful person. <br /><br />I'd say, feel it out. Figure out how you feel about the person before totally giving up something you love. You never know what it might change into with a little compromise :}<br /><br />xo<br />MegMeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15615835238587237082noreply@blogger.com