tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post2101366794892126862..comments2023-09-09T06:12:36.477-04:00Comments on the wild and wily ways of a brunette bombshell: on anonymous commenters, those things that could be called love letters, appearing desperate, and what it means to be honest:meg feehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16588092985523441189noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-83513128691744560092012-07-25T07:58:42.467-04:002012-07-25T07:58:42.467-04:00A little background before I comment: I was "...A little background before I comment: I was "desperate" after college, watching all of my friends have it together and get married, and I married a man I had no business even dating in the first place just because I felt that it was the time to get married. It followed the plan I'd <br />laid out for myself years before. He didn't complete me; if anything those were the loneliest two years of my life. And when I left him, it was the best the decision I've ever made. <br />I was incomplete as a married woman, and over the course of the years that followed our divorce, I've completed myself. I've rediscovered who I am, re-evaluated my choices and values and beliefs and everything else you could think of. I purposefully lived by myself so I would have the isolation I needed to confront myself. I was also an independent woman. But, Meg, I also felt that longing for someone to share it with. It isn't a desperation. You do not come off as desperate; you want someone to share your journey with, and I believe that's a natural feeling. I've read your blog for a while now, and you seem lately to be in a period of intense self-discovery. I also hope your someone is near, so they can share this time with you. Best wishes and please don't start editing your honesty to keep the negative comments away. I appreciate your beautiful writing so much. (p.s. My true love came along two years ago, and yes, it's all worth it in the end.)Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12502530864520455034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-22649699907458390712012-07-25T07:27:34.473-04:002012-07-25T07:27:34.473-04:00" okay, but you can't just take that bit ..." okay, but you can't just take that bit of their life, you have to take it all. and you don't know what another's secret shame or great sadness is. you don't know another's addiction. you can't imagine another's loss. "<br /><br />Can I use this in my blog sometime? Perfect words for me right now. xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02940573777374214914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-65685822936058835952012-07-25T03:39:29.602-04:002012-07-25T03:39:29.602-04:00amen!!!
my thoughts exactly! (except yours are pu...amen!!! <br />my thoughts exactly! (except yours are put into much lovelier words and a cohesive thought process ;o) <br />i say ... "you go guuurlll " (haha sorry , i had to)Sonjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12459460252068395786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-9759193409807260302012-07-25T03:11:25.054-04:002012-07-25T03:11:25.054-04:00and p.s: nothing about your blog really solicits ...and p.s: nothing about your blog really solicits anyone else's attention. Your talent has obviously given you a following, but In today's world blogs are really just creative outlets that we all use to describe our daily lives. Much like journals and diaries from the past, commenting negatively on someones personal blog is pretty much the same as me picking up a 100 year old journal and being irritated that the woman didn't have the same outlook on life that I do. It's just a blog people. Shrug your shoulders and embrace the fact that we are all living our lives differently.meaghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04753893542830623270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-2704063047635946002012-07-25T02:54:17.805-04:002012-07-25T02:54:17.805-04:00I think it was Kate who said earlier that you are ...I think it was Kate who said earlier that you are a "multi faceted human being" and I think that is so very true and really the only thing that matters. Good Lord who cares whether or not you have had desperate moments in your life? We all have been there. I have been reading your blog for awhile now because you exhibit many qualities we all share and your honesty towards your life experiences is something I, at least, learn from. I lived in NYC for a short time and I am in awe of your independence there. I completely relate to your desire to have a partner to share your experiences with. Desperate? Please. This is life and loneliness (and hopefulness) is only natural. At the same time I read your blog and hear how successful you are as an independent woman. Not because I have a clue what you do for a living (or how the hell you afford an apartment alone :) but because I see how you embrace your life and every emotion: sadness, happiness, loneliness... that comes with it. You are human, and so multi faceted that maybe, just maybe you have felt desperate for love and companionship. Maybe desperate is the wrong word (obviously for some), but to me it just describes the level of intensity you hope to feel for someone someday. Don't let that word get you down. I for one don't read your heartfelt words to a future someone as desperate. I see them as beautiful ways to describe the woman you are now and the woman you hope to someday be. I also don't necessarily read them as literal letters to an imaginary person. You are multi faceted, this blog is multi faceted, and you have found an intensely creative way to describe the world around you and your feelings about it. Just because you choose to allow your private thoughts into the world doesn't mean you are no longer allowed to be human and feel many different emotions. Get on your knees and beg for a man for all I care. I know you would do it beautifully. Your words are beautiful. I know you won't stop writing them because you aren't "desperate" for approval from others, but please please please never "get over yourself".meaghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04753893542830623270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-60053199164473222452012-07-25T02:49:57.491-04:002012-07-25T02:49:57.491-04:00*and by comment, I mean comment with hatred, a lot...*and by comment, I mean comment with hatred, a lot of negativity etc. Sorry this turned into three different posts!Nikkinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-20657586636809635452012-07-25T02:41:33.715-04:002012-07-25T02:41:33.715-04:00Also, I don't think it is anyone's right t...Also, I don't think it is anyone's right to comment on what someone decides to publish on their blog - I feel that it is their own personal space for their thoughts. If you don't like it, why not move on? But, for the record, I really love your letters- to- the -future -husband.Nikkinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-11489490049216640172012-07-25T02:39:08.353-04:002012-07-25T02:39:08.353-04:00My thoughts have always tended to lean on the side...My thoughts have always tended to lean on the side of the first 'anonymous' comment on the phrase 'an honest woman,' and as such have tended to dislike the phrase a bit. However, the way you explained what that phrase means to you, I suddenly see a new light to the phrase and quite like it now.Nikkinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-68779925400551724702012-07-25T01:43:04.811-04:002012-07-25T01:43:04.811-04:00A-MEN to your thoughts about when people say "...A-MEN to your thoughts about when people say "it'll happen when you stop looking for it." Preach.Courtneyhttp://toasterxors.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-9648098341811757272012-07-25T01:21:51.182-04:002012-07-25T01:21:51.182-04:00Wow a shit storm it sure has been. Meg i think the...Wow a shit storm it sure has been. Meg i think the simple little word no one is saying is lack of Tact. This clearly hit a personal note with this cowardly person. I happen to enjoy your love letters. I read them and think of my own special moments i'd love to share with my partner one day too. Keep writing chica!The Savory and The Beautifulhttp://www.thesavoryandthebeautiful.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-16962843974892514992012-07-25T01:07:38.264-04:002012-07-25T01:07:38.264-04:00Meg, I absolutely adore your blog! I truly love yo...Meg, I absolutely adore your blog! I truly love your letters to your husband, amongst the many other things you write about...<br /><br />I've been following your blog almost daily (stalker?) for months now; I feel like I've gotten to know you, in some ways. So many blogs are super fluffy and happy-go-lucky....I admire how real and honest you are; I feel like I can relate to you in so many ways, and yet our personalities seem so different (from what I can interpret through the internet, that is)<br /><br />Keep writing from your heart; don't feel like you ever need to hold your feelings back. You shine so bright, in all kinds of your blog posts :) xoxoHollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15712900148648584059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-9128408351110754532012-07-25T00:55:53.937-04:002012-07-25T00:55:53.937-04:00oh boy, well this created a shit storm. i don'...oh boy, well this created a shit storm. i don't mind the negative feedback. i mind when it feels personal and hurtful. <br /><br />am i not entitled to an opinion about someone else's opinion? <br /><br />parts of the blog are endlessly monotonous, i totally agree. such is life. <br /><br />all anyone knows though of anyone on the internet is the small amount of them they choose to share.meg feehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16588092985523441189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-31598539366495669562012-07-25T00:44:52.633-04:002012-07-25T00:44:52.633-04:00WOW.....i wonder if i'll be the last one here ...WOW.....i wonder if i'll be the last one here to comment . I have been reading you for a really long time meg, from the time you had 200 odd followers, the reason i book marked you was because i found you writing a lot like i do, from the heart , you know that thing....? spaces between words and the little things...that attracts me .<br /><br />yes you are immensely talented .<br /><br />sadly this post , your blog and the comments are not about your writing , but about you as a person , which of course reflects in your writings, how can i, sitting all the way here in india, know what kind of a person meg fee is, but i do....a little...<br />because<br />wasn't it virginia woolfe who said once...that every passion, every story, every heartbreak, every emotion of a writer can be traced in his writings ?<br /><br />WHEN I READ THE FIRST ANONYMOUS COMMENT----from the previous post, I LIKED IT . YES---that comment was polite, on the mark about your use of the phrase honest woman.<br /><br />I FELT THE SAME ABOUT ASHELY PATRICK's comment. The woman was being HONEST and GIRL...YOU NEED TO LEARN TO TAKE HONEST CRITICISM . <br /><br />MY first reaction at reading THIS PARTICULAR BLOG WAS----grow up for gods sake !!!!<br /><br />ALL YOUR ARGUMENTS ARE FINE...accurate....especially the one about women regarding other women less of a woman or needy or desperate when we say we ENJOY having a man in our lives....<br /><br />hell yes...i do ! I LOVE having a man around me....entwining fingers, fooling around...kissing...playing...sex...everything<br /><br />and i love reading your letters and posts<br /><br />AND YET<br /><br />so many times...i cant help but think...<br /><br />hello...there's more to life than this....and i find your writing monotonous and dreary and needy <br />and cant help but think....what are you gonna do when you fall in love and find he doesnt do the crossword, he prefers tea and not coffee...he loves to wake up late not early, when you read and he will play max payne games.....<br /><br /><br />stop only surrounding with people who make you feel better about yourself....really....its the very thing that keeps pushing you into that depressive state....because when u dont get it...u slide...<br /><br />just my tow cents<br /><br /><br />yes of course i am looking for attention....lol...5th graders...:))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-38879720233896277042012-07-24T23:24:50.161-04:002012-07-24T23:24:50.161-04:00well stated. well written.
your writing never ceas...well stated. well written.<br />your writing never ceases to amaze me.<br />i hope to find my own voice like you have found yours.Krystlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11072399701970217135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-74601163089205767612012-07-24T23:24:49.776-04:002012-07-24T23:24:49.776-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Krystlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11072399701970217135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-20496436218504423862012-07-24T23:09:18.523-04:002012-07-24T23:09:18.523-04:00Love this, Meg! Your letters are some of my favor...Love this, Meg! Your letters are some of my favorite posts that you write. You inspired me to write my own letters on my blog. For me, it was as much about believing and hoping that I will one day find this personas anything. It's not desparate, it's an act of faith and hope and I think that it's awesome!<br /><br />~Tiffany<br />http://tiffanyd22.blogspot.comTiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05884647798001916687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-10933588520121421652012-07-24T22:53:31.233-04:002012-07-24T22:53:31.233-04:00God made us to be in relationship with each other,...God made us to be in relationship with each other, right? So who cares if you write to your future husband?? (I do this myself!) It's simply a sign that you're human and desire to have people in your life that you can share your heart with.<br />I applaud you for writing this. I completely agree :)Kaitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15918453157849131034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-49067707238347440312012-07-24T22:48:56.835-04:002012-07-24T22:48:56.835-04:00This is so right. Having a richer life because of ...This is so right. Having a richer life because of relationships isn't a weakness at all.<br />Love this.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086555248440242844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-53443126365266430922012-07-24T22:05:58.370-04:002012-07-24T22:05:58.370-04:00And you wonder why people won't publish their ...And you wonder why people won't publish their comments with their names attached? Because they're afraid of being attacked by everyone, just like this. <br /><br />Good luck with your writing--I certainly hope you develop a thicker skin and learn how to take criticism someday. But don't worry, whenever you do receive negative feedback, you'll have all of these people to jump on the person and put her in her place.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-84227033332205699682012-07-24T21:37:54.443-04:002012-07-24T21:37:54.443-04:00I once read that you know you're a successful ...I once read that you know you're a successful writer once you've had this kind of negative feedback.<br /><br />You go, girl. Amen.ruthpclarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11605541360880665779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-16630305593339401452012-07-24T21:37:53.312-04:002012-07-24T21:37:53.312-04:00I once read that you know you're a successful ...I once read that you know you're a successful writer once you've had this kind of negative feedback.<br /><br />You go, girl. Amen.ruthpclarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11605541360880665779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-1190432800543090382012-07-24T21:37:50.332-04:002012-07-24T21:37:50.332-04:00I once read that you know you're a successful ...I once read that you know you're a successful writer once you've had this kind of negative feedback.<br /><br />You go, girl. Amen.ruthpclarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11605541360880665779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-68749910465184461102012-07-24T21:37:41.652-04:002012-07-24T21:37:41.652-04:00I once read that you know you're a successful ...I once read that you know you're a successful writer once you've had this kind of negative feedback.<br /><br />You go, girl. Amen.ruthpclarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11605541360880665779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-64747996885148143572012-07-24T21:01:58.552-04:002012-07-24T21:01:58.552-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6155538679069971441.post-39364169696031879892012-07-24T20:58:21.241-04:002012-07-24T20:58:21.241-04:00well, hot damn that's the best "comeback...well, hot damn that's the best "comeback" to anon commenter i've ever read. <br /><br />i love the bit that tom told you. what a great lesson on not comparing or wanting what others have.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058256192583515265noreply@blogger.com